I LOVE MEN! NO, REALLY…

As long as I can remember, I have been surrounded by men.

Growing up, I spent my weekends fishing or riding dirt bikes with my Dad and my brother. Every Summer at camp, I would hang out on the steps of the boys’ bunks each afternoon because my closest allies were there, not on the girls’ hill.

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Later, in college, I would find myself surrounded by the brothers of the fraternity where I was a little sister. They were my partners in crime (some literally) and my adventure mates. I was their ear, and everybody’s “sister.” Not so sure I always loved that last part, but that’s another blog post entirely.

Post college, this trend of men in my life finally hit me, when I found myself in the Bahamas with 12 men as part of a bachelor party (and no, I was not the “entertainment”).

It wasn’t that I didn’t have girl friends, but my confidants and most of my adventures – always dudes. I am not entirely positive as to why. I never actually thought about it until my dear friend Sara, recently asked me. Best guess, without paying a therapist, in my younger years I was way more comfortable in my own skin around people that also wore no makeup and had no boobs. 🙂 Very. Late. Bloomer.

So clearly, I love men. Really.

Fast forward to the second incarnation of my adult life and opening my lingerie boutique in Boulder, Colorado. It was a labor of love, to pay tribute to the incredible strong and independent women that paved the way out West, long before my kids and I moved across the country and made Boulder home.

It was also very much my intention to shake things up and make men feel comfortable in this traditionally frilly land of uneasiness, not only by making it fun to come in and hang out a while, but ultimately, taking the fear out of all the little, sexy, silky things surrounding them. Did I mention little? Every detail of the physical store – down to the cowhides, barware gift-wrap and saddle – was intended to welcome men to the pseudo-Bourbon bar.

What I learned during the seven year life of The T*Bar, is that I not only love men… Apparently, I sorta speak dude.

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TheTBar.com was born of my melting pot of circumstances. I have a unique perspective: a lifetime of being a guy’s girl, years of successfully pulling the right information out of men when attempting to buy lingerie, realizing where the disconnect is and actually being a woman who understands sizing and what women actually wish to sport around in. Not to mention my insane obsession with lingerie. A superfecta!

After years of observing the challenges of men just wanting to do something nice (and hot) for the women in their lives – buying lingerie – it occurred to me that there was a way to ease the angst and help men do this in a painless way beyond the physical store. TheTBar.com actually helps men get it right. While doing this in store was a T*Bar no brainer, providing men the ability to get the same result, from the privacy of their home or office, enables even the most timid to join the ranks of the lingerie heroes! After all, we believe it should be equally as fun to shop for lingerie, as it is to take off. You heard me, fun!

Like the lovechild of Bettie Page and Paul Newman, The T*Bar empowers men, and the women they love, to embrace and own their sexuality in a playful, powerful and inspired way, with no apologies.

Simply put, The T*Bar is the conduit between men’s fantasies and women’s desires. Everybody wins!

 

xo-Debby

PS-Stay tuned for the new site/blog unveiling soon 🙂 For now, visit us at http://www.thetbar.com

Looking Forward to 2010 and Beyond!

Dear T-Bar friends, fans, followers, and loyal customers

2010 is bringing exciting changes for The T-Bar. We are moving forward with a combined store and an online strategy!
In order to achieve a successful combined vision, we will temporarily suspend normal retail hours. During this transition, we will gladly open by appointment for a private shopping experience.

Stay tuned for an even more exciting T-Bar in the near future.

To schedule an appointment please contact us at 303-444-5453 or info@thetbar.com
Follow us on twitter @TheTBar or our facebook fan page “The T*Bar Boulder”

Thank you for your continued support!
The T-Bar Boulder

Are you a Vixen? What is your lingerie personality?

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Let’s face it. How we dress can affect how we are viewed and how we present ourselves to the world. I am always droning on about my belief that it all starts with how we feel about ourselves, followed by what we choose to put on underneath the shell. This led me to thinking about one of my favorite blogs http://www.knickersblog.com and their lingerie personality quiz http://www.knickersblog.com/quiz Just as we have different personalities outwardly, we have different lingerie personalities. We express ourselves, like art, using these details to convey something, whether or not someone else has the pleasure of actually seeing the knickers or not!

We want you to take their quiz! Figure it out! THEN…..write in and tell us what your lingerie personality is AND visit http://www.thetbar.com and tell us what you’d pick to express that personality. One lucky winner will receive a $25 gift card to apply toward their lingerie personality selection!

Attitude adjustment!

Blush LingerieIt’s only human nature to let our insecurities get the best of us sometimes. Most likely there’s always going to be that one problem area on your body that you have a hard time coming to terms with. Let’s face it- we all do, but does it inhibit you from buying that adorable set you’ve been thinking of treating yourself to? I work in the store everyday, listening to women worry and fret over some imperfection, and then have to remind them that none of us are perfect, nor do we get airbrushed in real life (although, I have had that fantasy a few times at the beginning of bathing suit season)! Seriously, it is how you feel that matters and a quick way to get an attitude adjustment is by starting with what’s underneath. They are not called foundations for nothing! It is the foundation of how you feel all day, of how you carry yourself out your door and into the world, and most definitely, the foundation for our own self image!!!

Don’t forget to go to http://www.dailycandy.com/deals/details.jsp?id=42147 to save 30% at http://www.thetbar.com and comment on our blog to enter to win the shwag from our last post ( https://thetbar.wordpress.com/2009/03/10/sweet-as-candy/ )

Sweet as Candy!

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In celebration of you and in celebration of our new online store (www.thetbar.com) being recognized in “The Daily Candy Deals”, we are giving away
a Carol Malony “All Tied Up” set, and twenty, yes twenty,  Betsey Johnson embellished thongs!! Yes, free.
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Betsey Johnson embellished thong

To enter, comment on this blog and you could be a winner! AND….the entire site is 30% off!! Want the deal? Go to Daily Candy Deals and sign up at  http://www.dailycandy.com/deals/

Didn’t get what you wanted for Valentine’s Day? As we always say, “Get it for yourself”!

In the spirit of what The T-Bar is all about, we are excited to celebrate the post-Valentine season with March being “Celebrate You Month” at The T-Bar. We have always said we are all about celebrating strong, independent women who love themselves! There is nothing more empowering and sexy than not waiting around, so don’t! What better way to treat yourself, than with a treat for yourself?  Get it for yourself, wear it for yourself, celebrate yourself, be yourself.

We’re here to help……www.thetbar.com

Strip Tease (after all Valentine’s Day is coming)

Recently, I received this link (http://tinyurl.com/d2evuu) about “The Bra Project” dance performance from a friend that made me think about how much I love that there are others out there who are truly as nuts about lingerie as I am—and how a good ole strip tease is sooo back in style. I swear, Kelly Anderson from “The Bra Project” must be a twin sister of mine from a different mother. Anyway, what “The Bra Project” reminded me of was not only that I really do love lingerie—and a good strip tease—but why. As Kelly puts it, “It’s more about what you conceal than what you show.” Its more about what makes you feel good, pretty, and sexy inside and how you choose to show it. Which brings me to Kelly’s brilliant “reverse strip tease,” and what would be my perfect costume for such a treat on this coming Valentine’s Day…

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I’ve always been a big fan of hats and boots. Then I began wondering about what should lie beneath the trench coat and, of course, Carol Malony Ooh La La came to mind. Who can resist this little (and I mean little!) number. 1/4 cup bra, reminiscent of the Beer Garden maids and the garter panty with removable garters! Too fun and two undies in one. Eat your heart out, boys!

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So, in honor of getting that oh-so-hot feeling and maybe inspiring some private shows for that oh-so-hot guy on Valentine’s Day, you will receive 20% off any Ooh La La purchased at www.thetbar.com between now and February 10, 2009. Just enter promo code Oohlala before going to checkout!

Now, put it on to take it off, girl.

Click here and get it now!

My Morning Dilemma

A few mornings ago, as I was on my way to meet a friend for breakfast, I had a moment of awakening. I am running late almost every morning. I get up early. I get two kids off to school. I’m showered and hair is ready to go, yet I am always late. I started thinking about my morning rituals—this morning’s ritual. What could be making me so late? Candle was lit, check. Contemplated the weather, check. Made coffee, check. Kisses at the front door, bye to kiddies, check. La la la, hair and makeup, done. La la la. Check my Facebook and Twitter, done. Hmmmmm, still late, though! And then, it was time to get dressed. I knew what I was going to wear because I had checked the weather, so, check, and double check! And then it hit me!! My passion. My insane love of underthings. It was my daily lingerie selection!!! It was making me late almost every morning. It’s not the Lou Polka Dot Bra’s fault. Nor is it the fault of the spectacular Spoylt bra in Plum. Could it have been the bubble gum pink Betsey Johnson’s fault? Or the bright red Cosabella one, whose whole purpose for coming home with me was so that my Leopard print T. Santiago Undikinin’s with the red trim would now have a matching playmate. NO!! It was my fault. My love of each little bra and each little panty has me thinking and trying and deciding each and every morning. Well this just won’t do. Something must be done. I don’t know what, just yet, but you’ll know when I figure it out. For now, sorry, I gotta run. I have a breakfast meeting in the morning, and I have to go lay out my lingerie pronto.

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WIN A $25 GIFT CARD!!!!!!!!!!!

To help Debby feel like she is not alone in her obsession, we are having a contest. Send in photos of your lingerie drawer with a note saying why you’re the deserving winner of a $25 gift card to the T-Bar Boulder or http://www.thetbar.com

Send to: info@thetbar.com, title line saying “I want my Gift Card!” Hurry, we will pick a winner Monday, February 2nd…….just in time for Valentine’s Day.

My latest Obsession and why I do what I do!

Parah Noir

I am in love with Parah Noir. Why? This line is seductive, refined and sensual, yet sold at a price lower than Parah Couture! Every time I view this line, my heart starts racing. It is the type of order that puts me into full on watch-the-calendar mode, awaiting the UPS driver’s visit in the Spring. It is drop-him-to-his-knees gorgeous, and frankly makes me feel the same way.

Every day I am asked how I got into this business. I love what I do. Lately, though, with the economy being less than wonderful, I have had to answer this more often. So I began to revisit the “why” for myself. I am passionate about lingerie for so many reasons and when I view a line like Parah or Carol Malony, I am reminded of some of the many whys. Recently, I opened an order that I placed six months ago. One piece was specifically for me. Two friends were in the store when it arrived and I think they may have thought I was insane while I was jumping like a child with joy at the arrival of the the tiny package. Then I opened it and one friend in particular immediately understood. It was drop-dead gorgeous and brought so much excitement. Now, I realize that in the the big picture this may seem frivolous. I can assure you, raising two children in a modern world, I think about life’s lessons constantly. The truth is, I ordered the bra as I was undergoing surgery to remove tumors from my breast. I was celebrating being a woman for myself in a way that made me feel fantastic even though I have scars now. What I realized is that balance is key to everything. So while we donate our time and resources to things we believe in, give generously of ourselves to those we love, there is room for some frivolity as well. The bra came and I celebrated the fact that I still love being playful, sexy and strong and can do so even with the scars!