Lighten Up Francis, It’s Just Lingerie!

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Why do people get their panties in a wad at the topic of lingerie?

I had issues with our signage at the old store due to the fact that the women were in bras. Mind you, they were also more covered than most people on a beach or in the local climbing gym, for that matter.

Facebook recently started rejecting our ads due to suggestive content/nudity. Again, more coverage than a bikini and the content suggested that perhaps she’d like to receive a gift from her guy. Oh my, how scandalous!

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The T*Bar when it lived in downtown Boulder

So it begs the question, what the hell? Why do people get their panties in a wad at the topic of lingerie? Is it because it suggests so much more? Sex? Sexiness? Confidence? Lust? So what if it does? We are humans and we have sex. It’s kind of how we’re built. It’s how we all got here, by the way. I personally, would prefer to embrace the attitude, and create a culture that supports it, that this is one of the bonuses of being wired with emotion, as humans-we can have fun here-as opposed to the viewing our sexuality as a means to an end.

Perhaps it’s time to take a cue from our pals across the pond. The Euros have a great sense of humor around this whole topic, from the designs of the product itself, to the cheeky humor that surrounds the marketing and distribution of the same. That’s one of the reasons many of our vendors are from abroad. Kriss Soonik and Marlies Dekkers are two of our favorites. How’s the Marlies Dekkers Gloria Pin Stripe for a power suit?

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At The T*Bar, we work really hard to make the experience fun, as it should be. So, in an effort to help break down these taboo’s and spread The TQween’s gospel, that we should be able to talk about such things and lighten up, we are going to share some of the reasons I believe lingerie matters (aside from my obvious obsession), and over the coming weeks will ask some of you to let us know why lingerie matters to you, as well.

Recently, I was visiting with a man I had a relationship with and still am very close to. While we are not together, I will hold a very unique place in my heart for this person for my lifetime. There’s a myriad of reasons why, but one reason in particular of an intimate nature, is how he made me feel when it came to my lingerie. Seen-not invisible. He always knew, and still does, if I was wearing something new or he’d not seen before.

While he never gave me lingerie (nobody ever has-*sniffle), he appreciated that I treated it as gift wrap and a playful part of who I am, whether we were going to a football game with my Gator orange underthings for good luck, or an incredible dinner at a favorite restaurant in his hometown, with a fun surprise for “dessert”. The fact that he noticed, took time to say so, and even weighed in on favorites, made me feel absolutely seen, not invisible. That is some powerful shit.

XOXO

Debby aka The TQween

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My Morning Dilemma

A few mornings ago, as I was on my way to meet a friend for breakfast, I had a moment of awakening. I am running late almost every morning. I get up early. I get two kids off to school. I’m showered and hair is ready to go, yet I am always late. I started thinking about my morning rituals—this morning’s ritual. What could be making me so late? Candle was lit, check. Contemplated the weather, check. Made coffee, check. Kisses at the front door, bye to kiddies, check. La la la, hair and makeup, done. La la la. Check my Facebook and Twitter, done. Hmmmmm, still late, though! And then, it was time to get dressed. I knew what I was going to wear because I had checked the weather, so, check, and double check! And then it hit me!! My passion. My insane love of underthings. It was my daily lingerie selection!!! It was making me late almost every morning. It’s not the Lou Polka Dot Bra’s fault. Nor is it the fault of the spectacular Spoylt bra in Plum. Could it have been the bubble gum pink Betsey Johnson’s fault? Or the bright red Cosabella one, whose whole purpose for coming home with me was so that my Leopard print T. Santiago Undikinin’s with the red trim would now have a matching playmate. NO!! It was my fault. My love of each little bra and each little panty has me thinking and trying and deciding each and every morning. Well this just won’t do. Something must be done. I don’t know what, just yet, but you’ll know when I figure it out. For now, sorry, I gotta run. I have a breakfast meeting in the morning, and I have to go lay out my lingerie pronto.

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WIN A $25 GIFT CARD!!!!!!!!!!!

To help Debby feel like she is not alone in her obsession, we are having a contest. Send in photos of your lingerie drawer with a note saying why you’re the deserving winner of a $25 gift card to the T-Bar Boulder or http://www.thetbar.com

Send to: info@thetbar.com, title line saying “I want my Gift Card!” Hurry, we will pick a winner Monday, February 2nd…….just in time for Valentine’s Day.