Wearing it for Him is His/Story



Having a shitty day is the pits, but it is a universal misfortune. The severity of the “shitiness” can range from being late and spilling coffee on yourself to getting a not so nice letter from the IRS. Regardless, we have go-to vices to help aid us in our times of need. For me, it can range from a perfect Manhattan in a quiet bar, or a 7 mile run somewhere where I can scream and no one will hear me (that’s reserved for the biblical days). One of the most common though and the vice that unites a majority of women is the forever faithful, retail therapy. Recently however I’ve noticed a shift in some of my friends. Instead of reaching for a new pair of booties or little dress they’ve been sliding on something a little silkier. The therapy portion of buying yourself some lingerie is more rewarding than some of the other material items that we choose as therapeutic fixes. Putting on a lil somethin’ for myself, gives my confidence that minor kick in the ass that reminds me, I am fantastic and beautiful! No matter what chaos is currently ensuing.

Plus, its my little reminder, a sexy secret. One that I am keeping with myself. A little string tied around my finger, better yet my waist or hips 😉

Lingerie acts as the blueprint and foundation of my favorite outfits. It takes something that already makes me feel good, and gives it wings.

It’s the suggestion that makes lingerie what it is. It’s that little tease of being completely naked but covered subtly by different textures and patterns that ignites the human psyche.


From a social and historic stand point lingerie is traditionally purchased for special occasions. It’s not really thought about until we have an excuse to have a date night. But why not make the massive meeting you have next week a date? A date with yourself. Pairing a great bra with matching panties has the ability to make you feel more put together. The more put together you feel? The better product you produce, bottom line. There’s no wrong that lingerie can do! Just like men have lucky boxers? I have lucky bra’s, bustier’s, and bodysuits! (A girl’s got to have options ya know?)

Of course sexy situations are always made better by wearing lingerie. I’m not preaching never wear them for your partners. The attitude however has an awesome shift when you put something on for yourself. I find that my mans reaction becomes irrelevant. I can look in the mirror and think, damn I look good! Truth is he’ll appreciate it not matter what, if he doesn’t? He don’t deserve ya!

So, boys? We’ll let you continue to believe it’s for you. But there’s no denying we love to lace up for ourselves.

Ladies, treat yo self!

-Tiny T


Letting my Gart(er) Down



(Sara Sampaio for Victoria’s Secret)

I suppose ‘becoming a woman’ can be patented subjectively. Getting your period, losing your virginity, going out on your first date without curfew, establishing a career, summiting your first fourteener. Putting on your big girl pants is dependent the material you prefer to wear and where you’re headed.

‘Are you there god? It’s me Sierra.’ moment occurred when I clipped in my first thigh high. Just like most things, putting on a garter appears much more glamorous in the movies. There is a lot of adjusting and re-clipping that occurs. I twisted and turned my body in ways that not even a yoga instructor could choreograph. By the time everything was situated, I had sweated out the curls in my hair.

With no anti-frizz serum in sight I stood up feeling slightly defeated but excited. I put my stilettos (for full effect) and walked over to the floor length mirror.

It was in that moment where I realized the little girl had been shed and the woman had been adjusted and re-clipped in. Whether it was the way that the belt pulled in my waist or the way the straps met the opaque thigh highs, lengthening my legs. I fell in love with myself.

I could sit here and put on an ultra-feminist front and tell you that I wasn’t putting on this lingerie for a man, but then I would be lying. I’m not good at that. I was indeed putting it on for a man. A man who I cared about very much.  Because personally, that’s half the fun. And the other part of this empowering experience. Sleeping with someone is one thing, but spending money on something that the media solely displays on photoshopped models and wearing that for someone is another. It’s another step of venerability. I’m not saying that every time a woman puts on lingerie there is a novella in her head covering every ‘why or why not?’ she should wear a piece. Because quite frankly I know women who wear corsets, thigh-highs, and garter belts under their three piece suits to work on a weekly basis.

I’m talking situational. When a woman wears something for her partner, man or woman. It helps make a passionate moment become engraved. Every time she looks at that piece, she’ll associate it with that specific moment. A tangible piece of nostalgia.

That’s why lingerie matters, to me.

-Sierra aka Tiny-T



Looking Forward to 2010 and Beyond!

Dear T-Bar friends, fans, followers, and loyal customers

2010 is bringing exciting changes for The T-Bar. We are moving forward with a combined store and an online strategy!
In order to achieve a successful combined vision, we will temporarily suspend normal retail hours. During this transition, we will gladly open by appointment for a private shopping experience.

Stay tuned for an even more exciting T-Bar in the near future.

To schedule an appointment please contact us at 303-444-5453 or info@thetbar.com
Follow us on twitter @TheTBar or our facebook fan page “The T*Bar Boulder”

Thank you for your continued support!
The T-Bar Boulder

Are you a Vixen? What is your lingerie personality?


Let’s face it. How we dress can affect how we are viewed and how we present ourselves to the world. I am always droning on about my belief that it all starts with how we feel about ourselves, followed by what we choose to put on underneath the shell. This led me to thinking about one of my favorite blogs http://www.knickersblog.com and their lingerie personality quiz http://www.knickersblog.com/quiz Just as we have different personalities outwardly, we have different lingerie personalities. We express ourselves, like art, using these details to convey something, whether or not someone else has the pleasure of actually seeing the knickers or not!

We want you to take their quiz! Figure it out! THEN…..write in and tell us what your lingerie personality is AND visit http://www.thetbar.com and tell us what you’d pick to express that personality. One lucky winner will receive a $25 gift card to apply toward their lingerie personality selection!

Attitude adjustment!

Blush LingerieIt’s only human nature to let our insecurities get the best of us sometimes. Most likely there’s always going to be that one problem area on your body that you have a hard time coming to terms with. Let’s face it- we all do, but does it inhibit you from buying that adorable set you’ve been thinking of treating yourself to? I work in the store everyday, listening to women worry and fret over some imperfection, and then have to remind them that none of us are perfect, nor do we get airbrushed in real life (although, I have had that fantasy a few times at the beginning of bathing suit season)! Seriously, it is how you feel that matters and a quick way to get an attitude adjustment is by starting with what’s underneath. They are not called foundations for nothing! It is the foundation of how you feel all day, of how you carry yourself out your door and into the world, and most definitely, the foundation for our own self image!!!

Don’t forget to go to http://www.dailycandy.com/deals/details.jsp?id=42147 to save 30% at http://www.thetbar.com and comment on our blog to enter to win the shwag from our last post ( https://thetbar.wordpress.com/2009/03/10/sweet-as-candy/ )

Sweet as Candy!

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a Carol Malony “All Tied Up” set, and twenty, yes twenty,  Betsey Johnson embellished thongs!! Yes, free.
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Carol Malony All Tied Up

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To enter, comment on this blog and you could be a winner! AND….the entire site is 30% off!! Want the deal? Go to Daily Candy Deals and sign up at  http://www.dailycandy.com/deals/

Didn’t get what you wanted for Valentine’s Day? As we always say, “Get it for yourself”!

In the spirit of what The T-Bar is all about, we are excited to celebrate the post-Valentine season with March being “Celebrate You Month” at The T-Bar. We have always said we are all about celebrating strong, independent women who love themselves! There is nothing more empowering and sexy than not waiting around, so don’t! What better way to treat yourself, than with a treat for yourself?  Get it for yourself, wear it for yourself, celebrate yourself, be yourself.

We’re here to help……www.thetbar.com

Strip Tease (after all Valentine’s Day is coming)

Recently, I received this link (http://tinyurl.com/d2evuu) about “The Bra Project” dance performance from a friend that made me think about how much I love that there are others out there who are truly as nuts about lingerie as I am—and how a good ole strip tease is sooo back in style. I swear, Kelly Anderson from “The Bra Project” must be a twin sister of mine from a different mother. Anyway, what “The Bra Project” reminded me of was not only that I really do love lingerie—and a good strip tease—but why. As Kelly puts it, “It’s more about what you conceal than what you show.” Its more about what makes you feel good, pretty, and sexy inside and how you choose to show it. Which brings me to Kelly’s brilliant “reverse strip tease,” and what would be my perfect costume for such a treat on this coming Valentine’s Day…


I’ve always been a big fan of hats and boots. Then I began wondering about what should lie beneath the trench coat and, of course, Carol Malony Ooh La La came to mind. Who can resist this little (and I mean little!) number. 1/4 cup bra, reminiscent of the Beer Garden maids and the garter panty with removable garters! Too fun and two undies in one. Eat your heart out, boys!


So, in honor of getting that oh-so-hot feeling and maybe inspiring some private shows for that oh-so-hot guy on Valentine’s Day, you will receive 20% off any Ooh La La purchased at www.thetbar.com between now and February 10, 2009. Just enter promo code Oohlala before going to checkout!

Now, put it on to take it off, girl.

Click here and get it now!

My Morning Dilemma

A few mornings ago, as I was on my way to meet a friend for breakfast, I had a moment of awakening. I am running late almost every morning. I get up early. I get two kids off to school. I’m showered and hair is ready to go, yet I am always late. I started thinking about my morning rituals—this morning’s ritual. What could be making me so late? Candle was lit, check. Contemplated the weather, check. Made coffee, check. Kisses at the front door, bye to kiddies, check. La la la, hair and makeup, done. La la la. Check my Facebook and Twitter, done. Hmmmmm, still late, though! And then, it was time to get dressed. I knew what I was going to wear because I had checked the weather, so, check, and double check! And then it hit me!! My passion. My insane love of underthings. It was my daily lingerie selection!!! It was making me late almost every morning. It’s not the Lou Polka Dot Bra’s fault. Nor is it the fault of the spectacular Spoylt bra in Plum. Could it have been the bubble gum pink Betsey Johnson’s fault? Or the bright red Cosabella one, whose whole purpose for coming home with me was so that my Leopard print T. Santiago Undikinin’s with the red trim would now have a matching playmate. NO!! It was my fault. My love of each little bra and each little panty has me thinking and trying and deciding each and every morning. Well this just won’t do. Something must be done. I don’t know what, just yet, but you’ll know when I figure it out. For now, sorry, I gotta run. I have a breakfast meeting in the morning, and I have to go lay out my lingerie pronto.


WIN A $25 GIFT CARD!!!!!!!!!!!

To help Debby feel like she is not alone in her obsession, we are having a contest. Send in photos of your lingerie drawer with a note saying why you’re the deserving winner of a $25 gift card to the T-Bar Boulder or http://www.thetbar.com

Send to: info@thetbar.com, title line saying “I want my Gift Card!” Hurry, we will pick a winner Monday, February 2nd…….just in time for Valentine’s Day.